by littlelolly » Sun Aug 18, 2013 1:58 pm
Hi Kat,
First of all I am so sorry to hear how much pain you are in and for your loss. Like you I suffered a loss this time last year and I can remember feeling exactly like you are feeling now. Somedays are better than others and even now after a year I still have times when I feel the need to have a little cry. Everything you are feeling is perfectly normal. The only thing I can advise is take the time you need to grieve, cry, get angry whatever helps you. Talk to your partner as he will be feeling the same as you. After it happened to me, we went away and spent some time away from everything, I know this isn't the answer but it may help you clear your mind. I also had to take some time off work but everyone is different. It will get easier i promise you, time is a great healer. I would suggest talking to someone or doing something just for you that will distract you. I spent a lot of time swimmjng and going out for long walks because this is what helps me when I feel low about things. Take as long as you need to grieve and be kind to yourself. I also found the miscarriage association very helpful. Try not to bottle things up, it is not healthy for you. Take care and PM me if you need to.
Lolly
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