Recurrent Miscarriage - Success Stories Please

[debs29]

Hi there,

I am in the process of having my second miscarriage in a row. Both times I fell pregnant as a result of ICSI treatment. The first time I had a BMI of 32ish and suffered severe OHSS - I was very ill. My MC started at 7.5 weeks. I am now 6 weeks with second baby - I have lost 2.5 stone - BMI under 26 and am on Metformin as well. Now with this second loss I feel like all hope is gone and can't see how I will have the strength to carry on. Some success stories where people have had recurrent miscarriage and have been successful would really help.

Debsxxxx

[Fitch]

hi debs, im really sorry that you are going through this

me and my husband had been ttc for 6 years and i suffered 3 miscarriages, i did it all, lost weight, excersised, ate well, 6 months of clomid and still i struggled to concieve and when i did i still lost my babies!! we had decided before we started that we were not gonna go down the IVF route (we decided that if we couldnt have our own children then we would give a child who needed love a home and adopt) my new dr started the ball rolling with investigations into miscarriages and prescribed metformin as a last ditch attempt and that month i conceived my now 6 month old son and to top it all off i have just discovered i am pregnant again!!! (very early days so very cautious!!)

i will never forget my 3 babies i lost and NEVER forget the pain of loosing them, i know how lucky i am to have my son but i just wanted to say please dont give up i know it feels like there is no hope and the thought of starting again is unbearable but its worth all the pain and heartbreak when you eventually hold your baby in your arms.

good luck and i hope this helps give you a bit of strength
x

[debs29]

Fitch - thank you so much for replying to me and giving me some hope. I was on metformin but only for 1 week (I started bleeding 6 days after starting it). I begged for it when I found out I was pregnant. Do you think I needed to be on it longer for it to do any good? When you were as far along as me you would have been on it for at least a month.

Wishing you lots of congratulations with your pregnancy - are you on metformin for this as well?

Debsxxx

[joy]

Hiya Debs
I'm so sorry this has happened again hun! I too had 2 positive tests Thursday, Friday only to have a chemical. I've know had A molar, ectopic and a chemical in a year n half and its heartbreaking. I hope u get through this, I'm trying to but its bloody hard...I can't believe we both on here again! I'm here if u need me k x

[Fitch]

Hi debs

I wouldn't want to give you advice re medication but I started metformin about one week before my period then conceived before my next period so on it for about 5/6 weeks, dr wanted me to continue until 14 weeks. I'm not on it now so I am a little more scared of losing this baby but I thought if I conceived without it then maybe I don't need it now!??!

I'm glad it helped even a little bit

X

[joy]

Finch Thankyou for ur story, good luck.with ur pregnancy hun x

[debs29]

Thanks Fitch - I think it has confirmed to me that I wasn't on the medication long enough! Wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months! xxx

Joy - oh hun my heart goes out to you - it is so so hard and feels so unfair. I don't know about you but this time my main emotion is anger - I feel life is so cruel. Have you been given any explanation for your losses??? Likewise - I know how much we need people in the same situation so if you need a blow out or someone to listen you know where I am - pm any time xxxxxx

[zanussi]

So sorry to hear what you're going through. IVF is such a tough process. Have you ever had any blood tests to look at how your blood clots or whether you have any antibodies that may cause problems with a pregnancy. There are several levels of tests- the first will usually be done for free and they check for anti-phospholipids, lupus anticoagulant and some other things. The next lot are quite expensive (we were quoted £1500 I think) as they have to be sent off to Chicago, and then of course if they do show up a problem you'd have additional medication to pay for so a cycle could end up costing you around £10,000.
we only went for the level 1 tests which showed a weak positive for the 2 things I mentioned above. 2 repeated blood tests came out as normal but when it came to having treatment I was put on fragmin (also known as clexane and is a blood thinning injection) from the day of EC. I had to keep taking it till 13 weeks but some ladies will stay on it throughout pregnancy. I'll never know if that was the thing that made this cycle successful where the previous cycles had failed though.
Over the years of treatment I also heard of ladies having prednisolone (a steroid) to support a pregnancy but I can't remember for what reasons that was.
It's certainly something worth asking about at your follow up.
Take care of yourself xxx

[gemstone83]

Hi Debs

So sorry for your losses. I just wanted to add to what Zanussi said. I had the blood clotting tests done at St Mary's London as I already had two positives for lupus anti coagulant. They did a teg test for approx £150 and found that 75mg of aspirin was not enough and I need 150mg plus fragmin in my next pregnancy (fingers crossed I get pregnant). The consultation was about £250 and really worth while. I had lots of other tests done on the NHS so I personally would get tested after two miscarriages. I was persuaded to wait until my third and so wish I had paid to get tested sooner.

Wishing you all the very best xxxxx

[hope07]

I'm so sorry you're suffering another loss (((hugs)))

We started ttc in oct 2005, my ds was born in July 2010- in between times I suffered 7 first trimester mc's two of which were mmc's for which I had d and c's on both occasions.
We also had two rounds of iui then x1 I've which resulted in my dear son.
My pg with ds was full of anxiety and worry due to spotting but resulted in a healthy baby.
(I was on a mixture of drugs to cover the 'bases' re mc)

With dd we got pg first month of trying, but I had a sch and bled massively, passing large clots and having trips to a and E, but she held in and was born healthy.

I hope my story offers some hope, if anyone thinks I can offer support feel free to pm me x

[debs29]

HI everyone,

thank you so much for all your replies and support - without these boards I don't know what we would do! I should update though.....miraculously I didn't lose the baby. We got a scan at 6w6d and baby had good heartbeat but was a bit small. Had another scan a week later and baby still OK. We are still on tenterhooks though. I don't think you can go through a MC and not worry constantly. We are just hoping and praying everything works out

xxxxxx

[Hols969]

That's great news debs - fingers crossed xx

[Fitch]

Debs that is fantastic news!!! congratulations!! Will keeps fingers crossed for you

X

[sal123]

We had been trying for about 4 years. I had a miscarriage then a missed miscarriage - I thought about giving up as I wasn't sure I could go through the pain of negative tests and more miscarriages but we carried on with the clomid. I now have a gorgeous boy which I thought would never happen.

I really wish you luck. I guess I would say don't give up, try to get support even if it's just your oh and verity. I know friends dont always understand.