Anyone starting adoption process?

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Postby Rach P » Thu Oct 27, 2011 7:21 am

Oh Tatie I had always wished for a happy ending to your story. I hope you get some resolution at some point and wish you every happiness it whatever you decide to do next xx
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Postby debbie » Thu Oct 27, 2011 10:15 pm

I am so sorry to hear your news Tatie. As you say, older children don't come without a past and sometimes it only manifests itself when they are settling into a new situation.

I am sure you did everything you possibly could, but sadly for some children this will never be enough.

Me and my sister were adopted. I was a baby and she was 6 with many complex needs which have continued into her adulthood. She will be 40 this year and still my Mum wonders if she could have done things better for her but sadly I don't think so.

Try and keep strong and remember you are a good person who tried, which is more than many have done for those boys.

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Postby florencethenurse » Mon Oct 31, 2011 11:12 am

dx with PCOS earlier this year and due to practically nil ovulation and medication I'm on we have decided to not go down the line of any kind of fertility tx not sure i could cope with the negative sides of the treatment so we are looking into adoption from the outset we have read the initial pack from the LA and have to phone SW this afternoon to find out the next steps i am 34 next year and so i really want to be a mum and am worried i will leave it too late this thread has been very interesting to read and i will update you as i can
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Postby hope07 » Mon Oct 31, 2011 7:01 pm

tatie- So Sorry to read your update- so sad for everybody involved x
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Postby Verve » Sat Nov 19, 2011 5:10 pm

Tatie this has been one of the most interesting threads I have ever read and I'm just so sorry it didn't go as planned, I hope you wont give up in the long term, thanks for sharing x
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Postby tatie » Mon Jan 02, 2012 9:20 pm

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Postby MsMara » Tue Jan 03, 2012 6:25 pm

:( So sorry, Tatie. Only just read this, and I kind of understand. My little brother is adopted, he was 3 when he was adopted, but there were still some issues there. You're so brave and have done so well for trying. I'm following your blog.
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Postby looey82 » Tue Jan 03, 2012 7:37 pm

I'm reading the blog too. xx
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Postby tatie » Tue Jan 03, 2012 9:48 pm

Thank you so much. If you want to comment on the blog please do. It's going to be rather random to begin with but hopefully as people get to know me and what we've been through I'll be able to share all the things that got us through xXx
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Postby Platinum » Wed Feb 22, 2012 4:07 pm

Oh Tatie, I've just seen this and had been following your thread in recent years. I'm so sorry to read that the adoption didn't work out, and am quite sure you did everything you could. I can't imagine the heartache you must be feeling.

I will take a look at your blog. Hugs.

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Re: Anyone starting adoption process?

Postby ellen80 » Tue Mar 06, 2012 10:38 pm

Tatie I have been reading this thread & your blog and I think its so brave and amazing that your sharing your story with us, thank you xx

Florence the nurse, I just wondered how you've been getting on? Are you still going down the adoption route?
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Re: Anyone starting adoption process?

Postby tatie » Wed Mar 07, 2012 9:37 pm

No Ellen - my hubby is nearly 50 now and I'm getting on for 45 - I don't think we have the energy. Sorry about lack of blogging - been soooo busy but am aiming to get going again xXx
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Re: Anyone starting adoption process?

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Re: Anyone starting adoption process?

Postby LittleDot » Tue May 08, 2012 9:57 pm

It's been a while since I've been on verity and posted but I remember you starting this journey. So sorry to hear your news. I am a great believer in everything happens for a reason. You took the plunge, you did your best and that's something to be extremely proud of. Keep your head held high (easy said than done) and look forward to unravelling the next chapter.
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Re: Anyone starting adoption process?

Postby Verve » Thu May 10, 2012 9:27 pm

Tatie you've been asked this before but would you try again to adopt? have children's services asked you to try again? it's obvious you were suitable it's just so sad that the kids weren't ready. I would like to adopt in the future (whether I have my own kids or not) but some of my family have a criminal record and I'm sure it would go against me as I would have to disclose it (believe it or not I work for the criminal justice system how ironic). The family aren't my 'direct' family but are close enough and for that reason I would have to say something. My husband's family are lovely people. Love n hugs and happiness to you x
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