Hi girls!
My name's Amy, and the problem I'm having at the mo is with my boyfriend's gambling addiction. We've been together for several years, had ups and downs (last year being particularly rough after losing my dad unexpectedly). He's always dabbled with online roulette; the odd tenner here and there.
We took a live in job last August, free rent food etc, and a decent wage. Our aim was to save up some money so that we could fufill our dream (opening a 50's style diner.) We opened a joint bank account (which I admittedly never checked/paid attention to) and saved up a couple of grand, which was excellent. One day I went to the shop for something, and checked our bank. We were 200 quid overdrawn... his gambling never crossed my mind, but after he refused to show me his bank statements I knew...
He'd lost every penny we'd earnt on online roulette. Long story short I forgave him, but made him promise never to gamble again. Time goes on, vicious circle, we save up, he loses it all, everytime I forgave him. Once he won almost 20 grand, which I'm sure would've been exhilarating and given us the chance to kick start our dream.
Anyway, he lost every penny of course... and told me via Facebook a week after he'd lost it. It was at this point I deleted his gambling account and changed his paypal password so he couldn't deposit money or buy anything without me.
Now, we've taken a new live in job. We're on very low (below minimum) wage, working long, hard hours. Still using the joint back account, which of course I'd taken control of. Long story short again, we've been here since November and saved up around 3 grand. I've just checked our bank account... yep, he's lost every penny again. Turns out he'd opened secretive accounts on other websites and has found a way to hack his own paypal and change his password back. He's at work at the moment, I've just asked him about it and he's said, and quote, ''They must've took money out of my account from ages ago, I don't know, stop mythering you're annoying me.' And of course, he's refusing to show me the bank statements.
Worst thing is, he is NEVER remorseful. He just tells me to shut up and that he doesn't care when I'm upset about all my hard earned money disappearing. On average he does 10-15 more hours than me a week, so in his head he 'earns all the money anyway'.
I'm sorry for the long post, I'm seething and gutted, I just don't know what to do.