Giving 4 yo bad news

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Re: Giving 4 yo bad news

Postby Steph Pet! » Fri Oct 18, 2013 1:42 pm

Oh Claire pet sending huge (((hugs))) to you all...try and stay positive and make the most of every day. xxx
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Re: Giving 4 yo bad news

Postby Kasha » Fri Oct 18, 2013 7:03 pm

Oh Claire, it must be very difficult and devastating for you... Thinking about you and sending lots of love xx
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Re: Giving 4 yo bad news

Postby michelle79 » Mon Oct 28, 2013 1:05 pm

Aw claire so sorry to hear its bad news. Love to you and your family.xx
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Re: Giving 4 yo bad news

Postby *~*PINKPIXIE*~* » Tue Oct 29, 2013 10:21 am

Thanks Michelle. We have now had (yet another) blow in that it is already regrowing just a month after surgery, and they have 'tweaked' the radiotherapy and cancelled the chemotherapy. I wasn't at that last appointment so I don't know the ins and outs, but from my own research and reading between the lines, this seems to be a shift along the spectrum away from aggressive treatment towards the palliative end. I think the 12 month average is now very optimistic.
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Re: Giving 4 yo bad news

Postby sammykins » Tue Oct 29, 2013 12:59 pm

Oh my goodness Claire, I'm so so sorry to read this. How is your Mum handling it? And your Dad? Sending you big massive hugs xx
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Re: Giving 4 yo bad news

Postby espoir » Tue Oct 29, 2013 10:47 pm

So sorry to read this. Sending hugs to you and your family xx
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Re: Giving 4 yo bad news

Postby Hols969 » Wed Dec 11, 2013 11:11 am

How are things going for you all Claire ?
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Re: Giving 4 yo bad news

Postby *~*PINKPIXIE*~* » Wed Dec 11, 2013 11:57 am

Hi Holly, thanks as always for thinking of me - we're plodding along, the radiotherapy is complete, and now it's a case of waiting for what happens next.

My mum's personality has changed so much and it's very hard to take to be honest, I took her along to see Harry's Christmas concert and she complained all the way through it which is totally not like her, she's become really outspoken in her views and very selfish (we're of course all happy to give her everything she wants, but it's such a change) and she has no tolerance of my children, which is awful because she was so central in their lives up until August and they had spent at least 1 day a week at their house since they were babies (am assuming this is because she gets over-stimulated with noise and light and of course 2 boys are very noisy despite my efforts to keep them calm around her).

Her appearance has also changed, she's very very swollen from steroids and the radiotherapy, her hair is all but gone apart from the back, much heavier than before. I'm so worried that recent memories will replace the memories of my lovely mum as she was. In less than 4 months that person has gone forever, I feel like I've already lost her, but am doing my best to do all I can and take positives from what we have left.
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Re: Giving 4 yo bad news

Postby Hols969 » Wed Dec 11, 2013 12:17 pm

Goodness how shocking that her personality has changed so much, that is so sad for you all, I presume she doesn't realise it has or have you not really said anything, very tricky situation for you all. Try and remember how you ma was though, feel sorry for the children really as they may only remember her how she is now. Very sad for all of you xx
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Re: Giving 4 yo bad news

Postby *~*PINKPIXIE*~* » Wed Dec 11, 2013 12:25 pm

She doesn't realize her personality has changed, and no noone has said anything. We all just ride it out, it's much harder for my Dad though as she's been quite unpleasant to him lately and this is after 40 years of marriage where they have been pretty much inseparable and I'd never heard a cross word between them until about a month ago. He laughs it off, but sometimes he looks on the verge of tears to me.

I don't think Edward will remember her at all as he's only 2, and that breaks my heart as she did so much for him up until recently and adored him. Harry will probably remember her, and I keep their contact limited as I really want him to remember her as she was, rather than as she is now. They're doing 'family' at school at the moment and he keeps counting that there are 9 people in his close family and Nanny is near the top of his list, of course.
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Re: Giving 4 yo bad news

Postby Hols969 » Wed Dec 11, 2013 12:55 pm

It's just so sad, your poor dad!! I hope Christmas is ok for you all xx
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Re: Giving 4 yo bad news

Postby Tinker » Wed Dec 11, 2013 1:41 pm

Hi Claire,
I am so sorry you are having to go through this it sounds awful. I have no experience of your situation but the 2 year anniversary of my Mum dying has just gone and she too was integral in our lives and I still find it really hard. On the story about families Toby did that at preschool last year and he put Nanny in his and that was a year after she died. I think with stories he will remember her. Just wanted to post to say thinking of you.
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Re: Giving 4 yo bad news

Postby *~*PINKPIXIE*~* » Wed Dec 11, 2013 2:47 pm

Thanks both.

Sarah, I'm sorry to read you're still finding it really hard, I expect that will be the same for me. Oh, and congratulations on your BFP, 4 children, wow.

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Re: Giving 4 yo bad news

Postby Kasha » Wed Dec 11, 2013 8:27 pm

Just wanted to say that I'm thinking of you Claire, and of course sending lots of love x such a sad time for you x
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Re: Giving 4 yo bad news

Postby sammykins » Fri Dec 13, 2013 9:19 am

same here, thinking of you all Claire and sending you hugs xx
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