Postnatal Depression

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Postby Hols969 » Fri Jul 31, 2009 10:26 am

Good day one then MrsNutts.

I think PND in men is pretty common actually, all the added responsibility, not to mention feeling slightly jealous of a new baby as they get no attention at all, so I think its quite normal.

My hubbie is on st johns wort and feels that helps him, otherwise he would just want to sit and cry some times!!
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Postby Dottywot » Sat Aug 01, 2009 8:58 am

Well my doc has increased my dosage of Prozac, although I'm doing better than when I first went to see him, I'm still having mostly negative thoughts about me as a person! Taking peoples comments to heart & over analysing them & totally distorting them until they bare no resemblence to what was actually said!

I've signed up for the online CBT course - not had a chance to do anything with it yet!

Its such a miserable day here weather wise - was hoping to get out & about today as DH was working till half 6 this morning & I want to give him some peace & quiet!

Hoping the rain stops soon!

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Postby mrsnutts » Sat Aug 01, 2009 2:05 pm

I decided to tackle Daisy's sleeping last night - read baby whisperer, and realised how much we'd forgotten from last time. Although Daisy still woke up the same number of times, it felt much easier (although DH was having difficulties) and more constructive than previous nights.

Hope I get a few good days before a slump - evrything seems much easier when I'm up.

It's gone all grey skies here, I was hoping for a bit of sun.

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Postby Hols969 » Mon Aug 03, 2009 7:49 am

I think when you are feeling down, the weather here certainly doesnt help!!! one day at a time.
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Postby Dottywot » Tue Aug 04, 2009 7:58 am

Its grey skies here today :(

I didnt sleep to well last night, my brain wouldnt stop thinking about things I want to overcome! On other threads I've mentioned about a woman shouting abuse at me for being in town with a buggy on a saturday afternoon, well, I've not been back into town since incase this woman sees me and shouts more abuse about me being a terrible mother! I'm also too scared to go into our communal back garden incase our neighbours cat jumps on me! I know that both these situations are highly unlikely (well that cat more so!) but does anyone have any suggestions! I know that I should just do it, but its easier said than done!

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Postby Hols969 » Tue Aug 04, 2009 8:07 am

I would go into your back garden and back out again straight away, and then increase slightly each time which will give you the confidence (buy a water pistol and take it out with you).

As for town, I would go with someone for the first few times just to help. The woman in town was just mad so I wouldnt waste any time on her at all!! Mad cow!!

And you arent a terrible mother, you are just over sensitive at the mo, when you are 'normal' again (not sure I was normal before!!) you will see it much clearer!! so keep reminding yourself you are a GOOD mother.
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Postby Dottywot » Tue Aug 04, 2009 8:29 am

Thanks :)

I don't think I've ever been normal either! I would never "pass" the questionnaires that they give you! I probably had PND before I was pregnant lol!
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Postby mrsnutts » Tue Aug 04, 2009 9:59 am

You need to remember the loads of times that people you trust were nice to you, admired your mothering skills, and congratulated you on doing a good job, rather than focusing on one complete cow whose opinion doesn't matter. You could always carry a water pistol in case you see her again!

I know I wasn't normal before my first pregnancy, but I was as normal as I am ever going to be this time. PND exagerates what's there to some extent.

With cats, it can become quite an engaging task to watch for the cat, and spray it when it's not expecting it.

I've got a really dry throat - don't know if it's the sertraline, or I'm getting the cold DH's got. Andy it's raining again.


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Postby Hols969 » Tue Aug 04, 2009 10:46 am

Yes agree Mrsnutts, water pistol to town too!!

hey what is normal anyway .....
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Postby *~*PINKPIXIE*~* » Tue Aug 04, 2009 11:19 am

Hello ladies

Just wondered if anyone has had cognitive behaviour therapy? My HV has recommended it to me, and I'm supposed to think about it over the next few weeks and see how I feel about it. Any experience?

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Postby Gill » Tue Aug 04, 2009 1:43 pm

Kirsty Jane- Im exactly like that at the moment. But my woman didnt just hurl abuse at me, she punched me in the back!!!! Now Im too scared to go into town too!
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Postby Hols969 » Tue Aug 04, 2009 1:46 pm

God people are odd arent they, some have no bl**dy manners.
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Postby Dottywot » Tue Aug 04, 2009 1:48 pm

Gill - I saw your facebook comment, its so awful! Did you call the police? I hope you did! Huge hugs to you!

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Postby Gill » Tue Aug 04, 2009 5:47 pm

yeah I did call the police and they came and had a word. I decided not to press charges and I called her a name but Im sure shell get me in town! Thing is though she could barely speak (not through any problem but lack of education) Neanderthol defianetely!

Lees doing a full time placement in a lab so this is the first time in 5 years Ive been left alone with the kids (but saying that he lives at uni) It feels different somehow and ive lost all my confidence! We ended up in a ane last night as Izzy choked on cucumber and then an hour later hurt herself by bouncing up and down in her cot! She banged her chin. Luckily it was only a cut tounge. Just wish I didnt panic so much!
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Postby Hols969 » Wed Aug 05, 2009 7:43 am

When its your children you do tho, you need that second person almost for reassurance really or just to run it past so I think you sound like a normal mum to me Gill!!

That woman must have been mad
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